Things you may not know about me

I am passionate about taps (faucets for US readers). In days gone by when doing up houses, I’d spend more time browsing and hunting down the perfect taps than any other purchase. Indeed, I bonded with one of my close friends when we discovered we shared this trait.

I used to have curly hair, but it went straight after I had cancer. Not caused by cancer, nor chemo (which I luckily didn’t need), but the unexpectedly long time I spent under general anaesthetic. I had no idea this was a thing until my hairdresser informed me.

A good friend of mine calls me Debris. He has a penchant for nicknames and I quite like the fact that he’s given me one. I actually LOL’d when his daughter shared that while reading for a play, she burst out laughing when she came to the line “debris was strewn across the runway”.

I suffer from motion sickness so struggle with travel in the rear seat of a car, with the sole exception of Himself’s old Saab which also had the most comfortable seats I’ve ever sat in. I mourned the death of that car…

Despite having a rodent phobia, I once cared for a field mouse which my cat caught and brought indoors. My boyfriend of the time insisted the weather was too cold (feel free to roll your eyes) for it to be released outside, and I’m sure no-one will be surprised that it was me who ended up taking care of it…

That when I’m going through something especially difficult, I’ve a tendency to withdraw into myself while I figure things out. I’m much more comfortable being the person other people reach out to. While having been on the receiving end of some truly amazing support, when my self-esteem is lacking, the prospect of reaching out is too much because of those times I’ve picked the wrong person in whom to place my trust (it used to be my mother, who I now realise has NPD).

My first ever online name (don’t laugh) was debs50 – chosen because my name is Debs and I was 50 years old at the time😳 I promise you I’ve been more creative in my choices subsequently, even though I’ve come back to using my name once again. The fact of the matter is I’m the same person online as I am in real life, so I never saw any reason to hide behind a front. I may not be quite as open as I used to be, but I’m still essentially and recognisably myself.

I was born and brought up in India but, while I love the food and enjoy the flavour of spices, I can only eat a mild curry and avoid chillis unless I am 100% confident all the seeds have been removed. Yes, my parents and grandparents despaired of me.

While my wardrobe is predominantly black, navy or grey, my pyjamas are brightly coloured and patterned.

Any unusual titbits or oddities about yourself you’d be willing to share?

© Debs Carey, 2026