ISWG : Celebrating goals

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I’m a new recruit to Alex Cavanaugh’s Insecure Writers Support Group (the link takes you to details on what that means and how to join.
You’ll also find a list of bloggers signed up to the challenge – do check them out).

On the first Wednesday of every month, we all post our thoughts, fears or words of encouragement for fellow writers.

The awesome co-hosts for the March 7 posting of the IWSG are Mary Aalgaard, Bish Denham, Jennifer Hawes, Diane Burton, and Gwen Gardner!


This month’s question is:  How do you celebrate when you achieve a writing goal/ finish a story?

I’ll let you know when I do! In all seriousness, I’ve given no thought to how I’d celebrate, as there’s the far more important step to achieve … that of reaching those goals. And I’ve not reached any yet.

It’s not that I’m aiming for such massive goals (except in the long-term) that’s the problem, for I’ve made sure that my short-term goals are imminently reachable.  The problem is there’s something in my professional life I urgently need to figure out and until I do, it’ll keep on intruding into my thoughts.  I’ve been trying to work out who can best help me, without success … until, that is, I sat down to answer this month’s question.

Why is is when I answer your monthly questions, I seem to gain such insight – even to non-writing related matters? Perhaps it’s the fact that by openly embracing my insecurity, I’m freed to think with less noise. Whatever it is, I thank you.

Another insight gained – and one more directly related to the question – is I could well be great at celebrating other people’s achievements, but am uncomfortable doing so with my own.  Membership of this group could prove to be cheaper than therapy!


© Debra Carey, 2018


  1. Ha! I’m great at celebrating other people’s accomplishments but not my own. I do feel good when I finish something though. Or write two days in a row. LOL. This is a great group for sharing writing related things with like-minded people, so we’ll figure it out together. We got this!

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    1. Hi Gwen, nice to hear that I’m not alone in this one 😀 Not that I seriously thought so, but I seem to be surrounded by people who are waaaaaay better at it than I! I do get a sense of satisfaction when I finish some writing, especially when I feel its a good piece, or that I was able to express exactly what I wanted. But, no, I don’t think I’ll ever be of the rah-rah go-me sort, and I’m OK with that. Good to know I’ve found my tribe!


  2. Can a personal celebration be as simple as saying to yourself: “good job” and then smiling? I do that well, but I don’t make much more of a fuss over myself. I like me, but I’m not that special.

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    1. Yeah Ally, that’s way more my style. And I do it … whenever I’ve earned it. But I sometimes wonder if that’s why I have such a problem with confidence? I’d be content with a quiet confidence – which I do manage to achieve from time-to-time – and I’d never want to be in-your-face about anything. But I do wonder if I need to allow more joy into my life – if that doesn’t sound too hippy-dippy? And as for you being not that special – I’m afraid that I (and many others who love your blog) would have to take issue with that statement m’dear. However much your introverted self would prefer to side step it 🙂

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      1. deb, you see through me, don’t you? I’m an introvert, happy to not be noticed… unless I want to be noticed. So, you know, no cognitive dissonance here! 🙄

        I think a little bit of hippy dippy is what everyone needs. Take joy, embrace joy– squeeze the stuffing out of it. You deserve joy. ☮️

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