ISWG : Celebrating goals

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I’m a new recruit to Alex Cavanaugh’s Insecure Writers Support Group (the link takes you to details on what that means and how to join.
You’ll also find a list of bloggers signed up to the challenge – do check them out).

On the first Wednesday of every month, we all post our thoughts, fears or words of encouragement for fellow writers.

The awesome co-hosts for the March 7 posting of the IWSG are Mary Aalgaard, Bish Denham, Jennifer Hawes, Diane Burton, and Gwen Gardner!


This month’s question is:  How do you celebrate when you achieve a writing goal/ finish a story?

I’ll let you know when I do! In all seriousness, I’ve given no thought to how I’d celebrate, as there’s the far more important step to achieve … that of reaching those goals. And I’ve not reached any yet.

It’s not that I’m aiming for such massive goals (except in the long-term) that’s the problem, for I’ve made sure that my short-term goals are imminently reachable.  The problem is there’s something in my professional life I urgently need to figure out and until I do, it’ll keep on intruding into my thoughts.  I’ve been trying to work out who can best help me, without success … until, that is, I sat down to answer this month’s question.

Why is is when I answer your monthly questions, I seem to gain such insight – even to non-writing related matters? Perhaps it’s the fact that by openly embracing my insecurity, I’m freed to think with less noise. Whatever it is, I thank you.

Another insight gained – and one more directly related to the question – is I could well be great at celebrating other people’s achievements, but am uncomfortable doing so with my own.  Membership of this group could prove to be cheaper than therapy!


© Debra Carey, 2018


  1. Ha! I’m great at celebrating other people’s accomplishments but not my own. I do feel good when I finish something though. Or write two days in a row. LOL. This is a great group for sharing writing related things with like-minded people, so we’ll figure it out together. We got this!

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    1. Hi Gwen, nice to hear that I’m not alone in this one 😀 Not that I seriously thought so, but I seem to be surrounded by people who are waaaaaay better at it than I! I do get a sense of satisfaction when I finish some writing, especially when I feel its a good piece, or that I was able to express exactly what I wanted. But, no, I don’t think I’ll ever be of the rah-rah go-me sort, and I’m OK with that. Good to know I’ve found my tribe!


  2. Can a personal celebration be as simple as saying to yourself: “good job” and then smiling? I do that well, but I don’t make much more of a fuss over myself. I like me, but I’m not that special.

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    1. Yeah Ally, that’s way more my style. And I do it … whenever I’ve earned it. But I sometimes wonder if that’s why I have such a problem with confidence? I’d be content with a quiet confidence – which I do manage to achieve from time-to-time – and I’d never want to be in-your-face about anything. But I do wonder if I need to allow more joy into my life – if that doesn’t sound too hippy-dippy? And as for you being not that special – I’m afraid that I (and many others who love your blog) would have to take issue with that statement m’dear. However much your introverted self would prefer to side step it 🙂

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      1. deb, you see through me, don’t you? I’m an introvert, happy to not be noticed… unless I want to be noticed. So, you know, no cognitive dissonance here! 🙄

        I think a little bit of hippy dippy is what everyone needs. Take joy, embrace joy– squeeze the stuffing out of it. You deserve joy. ☮️

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    1. Damn, I missed your comment Alex! Thank you & I know you will 😀
      It’s been such a great group already, I’m looking forward to growing (even) older with it.


  3. Nope ed, not at all. If you click the link in my post, you can sign up to join the group. There’s a Facebook group if that’s your thing, and they post on Twitter. I’d heartily recommend it.


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