Pace of life isn’t something I’ve previously given thought to, but since moving, it’s been foremost on my mind.
At first, what I noticed was the positive aspect – the lower volumes of traffic, the lack of crowds, relaxed and friendly staff in shops, no-one rushing around in a tearing hurry, a relaxed attitude to problem solving, the buddy bench, the community piano …
My shoulders have dropped from their usual place up around my ears, even when things have gone wrong, it’s been easy to remain calm (if firm), saving up the experience to share as a funny story with Himself over a chuckle and a cup of tea. There’s been no need for anger or frustration, for largely nothing has been too much trouble.
Then I went to my first networking event … and had a second one cancelled very last minute due to insufficient numbers. And I began to wonder … while there are huge benefits to this slower pace of life from the point of view of living, could it prove to be a downside professionally?
Initially, I reacted as I’d been previously prone to do – not quite full blown panic, but the shoulders certainly went right back up around my ears while I worried, blathered about and over-thought. But then, I stopped, took a deep breath and realised I needed to take a leaf out of my new home. Much like SEO (search engine optimisation for those of you lucky enough to be unaware), building a local brand is going to be a slow process … and I’m going to need to be OK with that.
In the past, I’ve allowed the fact of my increasing age to be the driving force, the hurry up to all my decision making and – to be honest – it’s not served me well. At least one hurried decision cost me a great deal, not just financially but in terms of my confidence and self-esteem. I don’t indulge myself in ‘what if’ thoughts, but moving on from that one was quite the struggle.
So, I’m going to take a leaf out of my new home – no more frantic rushing around for me. I loved London when I was young, and the buzz and urgency were certainly part of that. But now I’m ready to slow down a little, to be more considered about my choices and my life. Oddly, as the very wise Ms Bean said in a previous exchange, I may find I get more done when I’m not being such a headless chicken …
Wherever you live – is it the pace of life which attracts you, or do you miss what you once had elsewhere?
© Debra Carey, 2019