What are your Dreams telling you?

Life in lock-down brought with it many a change. Some read more, others couldn’t concentrate on a book for the life of them. People also had strange dreams …

I’ve long had a degree of fascination about dreams, specifically what we can learn from them, with the twist being that for a couple of decades now, I’ve tended not to have them. Actually, that’s not true. Like everyone, I dream – my problem is I suffer from a lack of dream recall. It’s been suggested that I’m burying something, but it turns out I’m simply deficient in vitamin B6. I’ve supplemented with B6 and started to recall my dreams once more. As they weren’t teaching me anything I didn’t already know and supplements are darn expensive, I decided to stop. But on those occasions when I’ve felt blocked or unable to tap into my feelings, I’ve supplemented in order to receive clarity. 

When I was young, one regular dream comprised solely of a moving image, which I can only describe as a cross between a kaleidoscope and a vortex. It was overwhelming and terrifying, and I always awoke from the dream with a start. I recall they started shortly after my family left India and moved to Africa. India was my home – all my family lived there – and it was an emotional wrench to leave. Our final year in India had also been my first experience of civil unrest, and we moved from there to a country in the midst of a civil war. Our arrival was traumatic – the first time I had experienced genuine and visceral fear. Yet daily life was ordinary, formed of the stuff typically found in the final knockings of childhood before the onset of puberty – school, water sports, messing around with friends – except that alongside it ran the underlying tension of a country at civil war. Overheard during grown-up’s conversations were tales of road-blocks manned by armed, drunken soldiers, which had to be faced every time my parents went out at night (something they did regularly, socialising being a cornerstone of expat life), the need to always carry cartons of cigarettes in the car to use as a sweetener or bribe, the public executions on a popular beach. My dreams were the perfect depiction of my emotional turmoil.

Never one to have trouble sleeping, any issues in this area tend to be drawing attention to something being buried. A job I thought I loved (because it was in a glamorous industry) was actually causing me terrible stress – which fact was only brought into focus when I couldn’t sleep on Sunday nights for weeks on end. Immediately I resigned, I slept like a baby once more. A period of insomnia drew attention to a relationship which wasn’t working for me. There was no trauma or ill-treatment, but I was unhappy – even if I didn’t want to admit it to myself or anyone else.

Recently (and without supplements) I’ve been recalling early morning dreams. Himself starts work at ridiculously early hours and I’ve a tendency to wake briefly when he leaves (despite his creeping around quietly), before falling back to sleep. The dreams I’ve been having in that particular interval generally take place in an office scenario, where things are out of control and where the inexplicable is happening. Unsurprisingly, they’re signalling the emotions I’m feeling – those of heightened anxiety and frustration at the unexpected challenges I’m facing while making changes to how I earn my living. If I’d been in the dark about what I was feeling, my dreams would be providing a most useful service.

What have your dreams told you? Or do you think it’s a load of Freudian nonsense? 🙂


© Debra Carey, 2020

15 comments

  1. My dreams are always vivid and action packed ,and I absolutely enjoy waking and remembering the adventures and the people I meet along the way. While I don’t understand the reason behind them, dreams are part of who I am. Maybe it’s also why I love writing fiction. On those rare occasions when I don’t remember the dream, I feel as if I’m walking along a corridor and on the other side of the wall is where my dream is. I can feel it, I just can’t see it. Jim Kwik’s method might help you to recall your dreams https://jimkwik.com/kwik-brain-014/

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  2. My dreams will sometimes tell me what I am afraid to/can’t admit to myself in the daylight hours. Like how my first marriage wasn’t working and was never going to work. Those dreams are most instructive and stay with me, even years later…whereas most dreams evaporate from my mind within seconds of waking. Hmmm, I’ll have to look into B6 supplementation. Thanks, Deb!

    Deb

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  3. I don’t remember my dreams, if I have them, except for the occasional time i’ve been chased or something bad was happening but everyone has those dreams don’t they?

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  4. My wife has extremely vivid dreams, nearly every night. She can (and will!) recall them for me each morning as we sip our coffee. I meanwhile can never remember hardly any of my own, save a few about my last job before retirement. Sometimes I’ll get “visits” from one of my parents, which is nice. But in the main, I can never recall anything. Very interesting about the B6 supplements; I’ll have to try it and let you know. 🙂 – Marty

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  5. LA, when I said that, my Psychology tutor pounced on me suggesting I was burying something, so I was grateful I could refute it with my B6 experience which I discovered when working with a nutritionist. Other signs of a B6 shortage are water retention, tingling hands, depression or nervousness,
    irritability, muscle tremors, cramps or spasms & lack of energy. If you have any of these, you could try supplementing – if not, I’d not bother! 🙂

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  6. Monika, that sounds like the experience one of my close friends always has with dreams – very vivid colours & filled with action. One interesting experience I had while working on a piece of fiction was that I started to dream where the story could go. I was in an very intensive writing period of a month so it was all I thought about, but I found it really useful. Now I just have to learn how to harness it. 🙂

    Thank you for the link to Jim Kwik – I’ve not come across him before, so will give it a look.

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  7. Deb, your experience soooo resonates. They can be downright handy things our dreams. 🙂

    Other signs of a B6 shortage are water retention, tingling hands, depression or nervousness, irritability, muscle tremors, cramps or spasms & lack of energy. If you have any of these, it would be worth looking into supplementing.

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  8. Janet, oh yes, that’s such a familiar one. I’m terribly tempted to do some training in Jungian psychology so I can learn more on the subject. But I already have so little time for the things I’m already doing … Maybe one day 🙂

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  9. Marty, I think we all experience dreams differently. Your experience of dreams sounds like mine, but I think a smaller percentage of dreamers have vivid dreams like Gorgeous, like Monika (in the comments below) and my friend Dave. I’m quite envious of them, although a little scared as my imagination can be worryingly black anyway. But I’d be very interested to see if the B6 has an impact. 🙂

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  10. Ally, I’d say that your dreams are saying you’re doing pretty well at life and coping with it. If there were red flags there, I’m sure they’d be shouting at you! 🙂

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